7 Reasons to Never Feel Intimidated

Be free from the spirit of fear

In life, other people often make us nervous. This covers the spectrum from higher ups at work, love interests, people we don’t know at parties, popular people from school or the office, even celebrities.

It is natural to feel intimidated sometimes. Often people we look up to (or those who we just don’t know who seem cool) can bring up feelings we harbor about ourselves that we are not good enough, smart enough, interesting enough. The good news is, you are. We are all made from the same source and the truth is — and this is repeated in many spiritual scriptures “we are all special and we are all not special.” We are all equal, my friends. We are also beautifully different from one another, too — which means all of us have some unique value and flavor to add to a conversation or social setting. If only we really knew and believed this this!

Here are some reasons why other people should not intimidate you:

1. It’s you, not them. 
The fear of others is generated within us, not by the person in question. Realizing this helps us release it.

2. We all have faults, fears and insecurities. 
Jordan Belfort, the infamous Wolf of Wall Street, said in his memoir, “I’m insecure and humble, and I embarrass easily... But I refuse to show it. If I had to choose between embarrassment and death, I’d choose death. So, yeah, I’m a weak, imperfect person.” Even wolves get scared!

3. People are just people. 

4. Other people are nervous, too.
You might be intimidating. Ever thought of that? Shyness is misunderstood as aloofness all the time. A friend of a friend of mine who appears standoffish confided in me one night at drinks he is shy and loves it when people interact with him. When I shared that he does come across as a little aloof he was surprised as it is the opposite of his intention. Sometimes, if you make the first social move and say hello, you might be eradicating two people’s nerves.

5. You are giving power to your ego when you worry/overthink.
Intimidation/nerves is your lower self talking. Or as Arianna Huffington calls it, the “obnoxious roommate in your head... give them an eviction notice!”

6. What is the worst that can happen?
Someone might brush you. So what? ‘So what’ is one of the greatest things you can ask yourself in this world. As a sales professional that goes to a lot of networking events, I have been brushed more times than I can recall. Hundreds in fact. As far as I am aware, I am still alive and well (and certainly more successful as a result of still going for it anyway).

7. What is the best that can happen?
Ah, one of my favorite questions! The possibilities are endless. You might make a new friend, a new career connection or get a date! The opportunities are abundant when you stop allowing fear to get the better of you.